Five Powerful Ways To Raise Your Worth

Worthiness is your lifeblood.  It is the river that runs through your life, and it feeds every aspect of your well-being. Self-worth is the foundation of your identity, the emotional basis by which all things in your life are judged. In every aspect of your day to day living, each decision you make is bounced against a single question: “Am I worthy of the outcome of this decision?”

At the most fundamental level, all your decisions are based on survival. Eat, drink, turn left or right, stop at the intersection or blast through a red light. Some would think it’s an obvious decision to not blast through a red light. Well, if you value your life, which is a worthiness conversation, you stop at the light so you don’t crash into somebody, killing them or yourself. That’s a real fundamental decision, but those fundamental life decisions are always judged against whether or not you’re worthy of survival.

Most people would consider themselves worthy of survival and do anything to survive.  They feel worthy of living. However, there are levels of worthiness beyond survival. Am I worthy of a good life? Am I worthy of wealth? Am I worthy of a relationship or a healthy body? Am I worthy of success in whatever area of my life I want to chase after? Relationships, career, money, children, family, community, politics, pick a topic. If you don’t feel worthy or capable, you will not strive for a better life.

Most have a deep drive to achieve a goal, however, may lack the self-worth to go after it. We feel unsafe and fear criticism. People might say, “You’ve got the wrong person.”  Criticism is a dangerous emotional minefield, filled with embarrassment and exile.

Here are five powerful ways to raise your self-worth to help you fulfill your dreams and live a better life.  By lifting your worthiness, you increase your confidence and motivation to take action. These powerful tools work for me and countless others and are foundational in the Motive For Life coaching and personal development practice.

#1 – THE POWER OF LANGUAGE

The power of your internal language is so critical it can’t be overstated. How you talk to yourself is the most important thing you can change to lift your worthiness. If you believe you suck at life, or you’re not smart enough to solve problems, or not big enough, or small enough, or tall enough, or good-looking enough, or from the right school, or the right color, or the right ethnic group, or you don’t have the right abilities to succeed at a higher level, then you will not succeed. You will manifest the beliefs you have about yourself.

As an adult, you have control over one thing – your thinking.  Your thinking is defined by the words you speak. If you speak negatively or poorly about yourself, the words set in motion the life you will live. Today’s experiences are yesterday’s beliefs.  Tomorrow’s experiences are today’s beliefs.

Many believe their words reflect a life out of their control.  New clients often say, “I have no money, and the reason I speak of poverty is I am helpless to change my situation,”  What they do not realize is the words they tell themselves are re-enforcing their situation and harden the problem, making it more difficult to get out of poverty. Their continued focus on poverty keeps them in poverty.

The first way to change your situation is to raise your worthiness.  To do this, the first powerful way is to change your negative narrative. Start by recognizing your negative self-talk.

For example, here are a few phrases I used to tell myself.

  • “Robert, you suck at ______.”  (fill in the blank)

  • “Robert, that’s no good.”

  • “Robert, you’re bad at handling money.”

  • “Robert, why do you deserve success when you did X and Y to those people?”

  • “Robert, you don’t deserve a good life because you did bad things. You are unforgiven.”

Negative self-talk is corrosive and eats away self-worth.

I’m speaking from my own experience and from the experience of working with hundreds of clients. Negative self-talk haunted me for years, and until I got in front of it and attempted to stop the verbal beatings, there was no realization of my dreams.  When I did achieve a goal, it never lasted. My negative self-talk would light a match and burn the victory down.

If negative self-talk is your reality, the first step in lifting worthiness and moving to higher levels of success is to recognize when the inner voice is hammering you. The most powerful thing you can do right now is to recognize the ongoing narrative of BS flowing through your head.

Consider these narratives and ask yourself if you find yourself listening to them.  Fill in the blank with a subject or topic specific to you.

“I’m not good at ______ so why set a goal?”

“My family is _______, and we don’t succeed in business.”

“I don’t make enough money to _______.”

“I live in _________ and if they knew it, they would not _______.”

“My _______ is ugly, and they will laugh at me.”

“I weigh ______ and am unattractive. Who’s going to want to be with me?”

Know this – you can’t get out of the hole you’re in until you change the negative self-talk.  I live in this world of dangerous beliefs, and I felt like a victim for years. It’s time to change it. This is the first step of the five powerful ways you can raise your self-worth.  Identify the bad language and recognize it for what it is.

Start Your Practice

Just for today, try to listen for the negative self-talk narrative.  We all do it from time to time. When you catch a negative thought, use this simple statement to slow it down and send it in the opposite direction.

‘I’m okay, and I’m a good person.  No matter what happens, it will be okay.’


#2 – The Power of Affirmations

Self-worth is at the core of my identity and is the reason I self-sabotage, procrastinate, and do crazy things I don’t understand.  It’s as if I have an unwanted roommate, spiteful in all actions, living inside me, looking to destroy the home we live in. My unhappy companion seems to randomly counter my desires and tries to block my attempts at a higher level of success.

Negative self-talk is the roommate’s non-stop chatter intended to keep the status quo.  He doesn’t like change (because it is not safe) and, depending on the roommate’s emotional state, will distract me in an attempt to keep “things the way they are”.

Human psychology is a strange garden.  When physical security is routinely certain, emotional security rises to the top of human priorities.  The fear of unpredictable change is avoided at all costs and our inner roommate is in charge of maintaining the current condition, safe or otherwise. Familiarity is what we seek because the roommate knows how to survive the current conditions.

Why Affirmations?

To gain the cooperation of our inner roommate, we need to feed him new and attractive images, language, and emotions so he is prepared for the change.  If success arrives without preparing the roommate, he withdraws to his normal routines and launches emotional and physical attacks to distract me from my goals and eventually make my life so painful, I have no choice but to retreat to my conditions prior to the success.

Affirmations prepare the roommate (my unconscious psyche) for success.  They pave the ground so the roommate is cooperative and trusts that the new world is safe and welcoming.

If I want to change my prosperity, I need to supply a vision of what prosperity looks like. Over the millennia, great teachers have recognized that humans have the ability to change the programming of their brain. Through repetition of affirmations, we can change what we believe is true.  Repeating a prayer daily is exactly this process – this is not a new technology.

For example, the US military turns 18-year-old high school student into a Marine Corps fighting-machines by sending them to 90-days of boot camp.  Our military system is built upon reprogramming our fighters’ belief systems. You can leverage the same science for your own benefit, without the risk to your life!


This is the second powerful step in changing your negative self-talk.  Practice repeating positive self-talk until it becomes habitual and compulsive.  Teach your inner roommate the language you want him to speak! If the brain is plastic and can be changed, then why would I allow someone else to change my thinking to what they want? Moreover, why would I not insert words, emotions, and images that support my goals?

Start Your Practice


If you agree with this logic, then you are ready for the second powerful way to raise your self-worth. I wrote a collection of affirmations and readings to build the foundation of positive self-worth.  It’s called The Gift. It’s on the website www.motiveforlife.com and is a free downloadable pdf. The Gift is a set of mantras and readings to replace negative self-talk with higher self-worth language and goes to the heart of the worthiness issue.

The Gift is foundational and changes the roommate’s negative narrative to a set of positive, self-supporting emotions.  Here are just a few of the changes you will experience:

  • I am good

  • I am worthy of love

  • I am worthy of a strong body

  • I am worthy of a healthy and vibrant life

  • I am worthy of participating in the world of commerce

  • I make good money decisions

  • I have loving and supportive relationships

  • I am smart

  • I am involved with good and healthy people

  • Believers and supporters surround me

These phrases and many more, form the foundation of The Gift.   The readings are written using the ‘I Am’ statement structure and condition the roommate to accept success when it arrives.


If you have an unwanted roommate living in your head, you have the choice to continue listening to him or present new language, images, and emotions the roommate will have to adopt.  Read The Gift every day, for 90-days.  It works.

#3 – THE POWER OF ROUTINE

Confidence is the output of higher self-worth.  With more confidence comes more action towards your goals. Worthiness precedes all confidence and motivation. If you feel worthy of your goals, you’ll pursue them.  This is the definition of motivation.

The power of routine is the power of the cosmos. Human beings are cyclical creatures (like all animals). We are wired to do things over and over and over again. Planets orbit and so do you. Therefore, leveraging your body’s built-in routine engine enables you to perform tasks that advance your success.


Routines are critical to the development of self-worth. When we introduce a new healthy routine, we feel good. However, most people have a hard time maintaining the routine AFTER they receive the positive benefits because they don’t feel worthy of the success.

For example, I’ve struggled with sugar most of my life. I got hooked when I was young and if I let it, sugar will take control of me.  Some years ago I made the decision I wanted a healthy body and I am worthy of a physically fit and well-balanced physique. However, there is a part of me not worthy of a strong and healthy body.  This is a big iceberg and one of the more glaring critical self-worth issues I’ve dealt with most of my life. The core issue is my genuine dislike for my body.

There came a time when I’d had enough of the negative self-talk.  I wrote The Gift and successfully turned my language around. Yet, there was more I had to do to change.

Why Routines?

The first routine I implemented was reading affirmations every morning.  Louise Hay set the standard for positive affirmations. Key to her effectiveness is the discipline of reading the affirmations every day.  Affirmations are effective when they are consistently and repetitively imprinted on the conscious and unconscious mind.

During the summer of my 17th year, I worked in the shoe department of a large department store. Across from my station was the record department and they played hit albums to attract customers. One of the albums was The Grand Illusion by Styx.  It was the favorite of the girl cashier and she played it over and over. To this day, I know all the words to every song and cringe when I hear the intro to Come Sail Away.

Styx is habitual and compulsive and part of me burned in routines.  It is part of me and will be until the day I die.

Start Your Practice

Read The Gift every morning. It is a great first discipline in building worthiness.  The affirmations and readings are structured in a way to plow up old negative self-talk and replace it with strong, positive self-worth language.  Do The Gift every day, in the morning and at night just before bed. Read it for 90-days and watch your life change.

If you find yourself skipping days, simply return to the daily practice.  Skipping days is the first sign your roommate is trying to get you back to the “old ways”.   Reading The Gift takes effort but it is worth it. You are worth it.

#4 – THE POWER OF THE RED ZONE

The Red Zone is an emotional state occurring after a success or achievement. Consider the number of spectacular failures after winning the lottery.  The Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards says nearly a third of lottery winners declare bankruptcy. More studies point to lottery winners estranged from family and friends, have a higher incidence of depression, drug and alcohol abuse, divorce, and suicide than the average American.

Why do we do worse after a huge win than we do prior? From my perspective and experience, we exceed our self-worth limit. It is characterized by fear and free-floating anxiety and is the breeding ground for bad behaviors. This is The Red Zone.

A client came to me in desperate shape. He was on the verge of getting fired and needed to close a lot of new business or else he was done. After working with me for 4 weeks, he earned more money than he had in the prior 6 months. He was ecstatic, and on the day he deposited the check, he picked a big fight with his wife—ruining the joyous moment and success.


When asked to explain why he provoked his wife, he was clueless as to the reason. “I don’t know” was all he could say. This is the Red Zone; it lacks explanation and often is justified or explained away as character defects, sins of the flesh, the faults of mankind, or a thousand other reasons we label human.

In reality, it is our roommate making trouble because he is uncomfortable with the new, unknown emotions.

The Red Zone is an emotional state where your unwanted roommate is in full force, creating havoc in your life.  It occurs when you exceed your upper self-worth limit as defined by your roommate. Remember, the roommate will constantly check to see if you’re within your limits of worthiness. As soon as he detects you’re outside your limits, he sets off a series of distractions to move you back into his comfort zone.


By the time a client makes it to me, they’ve burned down their house several times and are lost as to why they keep losing their winnings. They’re at a loss for their behavior. My job as a professional coach is to help them condition their roommate, identify the Red Zone emotions and catch the behaviors before they do damage.


Look out for these emotions and actions immediately following a win.  They are Red Zone behaviors.

  • “I stopped reading The Gift.”

  • “I am fighting a lot with my wife.”

  • “I can’t seem to get out of this funk.”

  • “Let’s go to Las Vegas and celebrate.”

  • “My wife doesn’t understand me like this other woman does.”

  • “I think I am going to change jobs.” (having just received a great promotion)

  • “There is no way I’m giving my money to charity.”

  • “They can help themselves.”

  • “I don’t have time to exercise.”

  • “I don’t need to follow up with them.”

  • “My husband and I are fighting a lot.”

  • “Someone else will handle those issues.”

  • “I suck.”

  • “Let’s go out drinking.”

One favorite Red Zone emotion is blame.  Nothing distracts us more than finding fault in someone else and blaming them for our nasty situation.  The first indication you’re in the Red Zone is talking poorly about someone else and how “they” are doing it to you.

The Red Zone is free-floating anxiety.  It follows a win and suddenly you have an obligation on your back.  It is a cycle that never stops. With each new success, with each new goal achieved, you will enter the Red Zone because you have exceeded your upper limit of self-worth.

Why The Red Zone?

The key to your practice is to recognize when you’re in the Red Zone.  This is the Power of the Red Zone. It is the indicator of success and you are having a normal reaction to the achievement.  It is a good thing. Your goal is to become comfortable with the uncomfortable emotions of the Red Zone.

One of my good friends is pushing the edges of the Red Zone.  He set his goals high and achieved them, and as a result, the Red Zone emotions are hot, nasty, and have exposed serious character issues.  He recognized the Red Zone and worked through the crappy behavior because he wanted to keep the success. He’s educated, knows what to expect, and was prepared for the emotional rollercoaster.

You, as a beginner, will need to make smaller, more reasonable goals.  The reason for smaller goals is not you can’t achieve larger ones, but rather the smaller goals enable you to practice the post-winner emotions. My experience in this area is conclusive.  Few people are capable of handling large windfalls of success. Very few.

The goal, while you are in the Red Zone, is to let your self-worth raise to the level of your newly found success.  You have to let your upper limit catch up. You have to let it move to the new area of safety. The goal is to get the roommate comfortable with the new routines and feelings of success.

Start Your Practice

Practice is key.  Learning to handle a win is not a normal or logical process.  We’re not programmed to gracefully navigate success. I’ve always considered this one of the strangest of human characteristics and one, without education and training, will haunt you till the end of your days.

Mediation is a good start.  The goal is to calm your emotions and to act with control.  Red Zone emotions are difficult and hot, causing poor behaviors.  Our goal is to not do damage while in the Red Zone and allow our self-worth to raise and meet the new reality.

Loop in a friend or hire a coach who understands this problem.  You will need to talk to people who know what it is like to be in the Red Zone and why you need to “talk it through”.  Going it alone is a challenge. I have a team of people who understand the Red Zone and when I am in it, I call them and say, “I’m in the Red Zone and I feel crazy.”

If you’re married or have a partner, be sure they understand what is going on.  Many relationships have ended because one person is in the Red Zone and the other is wondering what is going on.  Success often destroys the partnership, instead of making them stronger. Keep an eye out and make sure your partner understands what you’re going through.

#5 – THE POWER OF CHOICE

Discernment is the ability to judge well or to make good decisions.  The fifth powerful way to raise your self-worth is to employ good choices as to what you allow into your brain.  We are all under the influence of something,

Protection of your thinking is critical to elevating your worthiness.  If you accept the premise our brains are plastic, then controlling what allow in is a mandate.  We MUST discern and decide what we want to hear, see, feel, taste, and touch – specifically when it comes to negative narratives in our society.


The media is full of bad news. I’ve been avoiding the bad news media for years and I feel fantastic.  I make choices as to what I want to influence my thinking. The best decision makers in the world recognize the impact others may have on their thinking and so should you.

I can decide to learn about a war or school shooting, but most days I avoid the bad news media.  I found it does not help my thinking. It doesn’t mean I’ve disconnected myself from society – it means I protect the quality of information I allow in my head. I am protecting the language of my roommate narrative.  I know my brain is plastic and can be programmed by outside forces, and I don’t want those outside forces to change the habitual great language I’ve already attained

Years ago, I chose the following narrative.  Today, my roommate is a friend and tells me the following 24/7.

Believers and supporters surround me.

I’m a fantastic human being that loves helping people.

I’m a teacher that elevates worthiness in all human beings.

I lift the collective well-being of everyone I touch.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

I expand in success, abundance, and love every day and inspire those around me to do the same.

I protect my thinking because I absolutely love my self-talk.  I stopped fighting myself and have become friends with my roommate.  My roommate and I work toward common goals and, over time, he has become easier to bring along.  He trusts me to make great decisions that keep us safe and maintain the routines so he feels secure.

My roommate is now my friend.

Start Your Practice

Make the decision to filter your news, social media, and friends.  This is the first step to protecting your mind and your thinking. You’ve invested time and energy changing your self-talk. Take the big step to determine what you want in your consciousness.

Disconnecting from the bad news is a HUGE step.  Decide what you want to ingest and leave the rest.  It is a practice and requires attention. We can become hypnotized and relaxed into listening, especially when it involves a topic close to us.  Use good judgment and make wise decisions. This is the heart of this powerful way to raise your worthiness. Your roommate will appreciate it!

DEVELOP YOUR PRACTICE

I hope you take action and start your self-worth practice. It’s a lifelong journey. It starts today. You can decide to take it. Start with The Gift.  If you want to know more about how to elevate your worthiness in a much deeper way, read my book,  “The Bug in Our Brain”. It’s on Amazon and Kindle.

Thank you very much for all your support and I’ll see you on the road to higher self-worth.

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About the Author

Robert Christiansen is the bestselling author of “The Bug In Our Brain” – How Lifting Self-Worth Clears the Path to Success.

Robert is an executive, entrepreneur, mentor, public speaker, master coach and is the president of Motive For Life, a professional coaching, event, and publishing company based in Lake Forest, California. Robert’s thirty years of work in the field of alcohol and drug addiction led him to his discovery of the relationship between self-worth and sabotage behaviors that affect millions of people around the world. Motive For Life is dedicated to bringing this solution to the general public and elevating the collective worthiness of the human population.

Why I’ll Return To Burning Man

I don’t drink, smoke, or run around with sexually free crowds. So why would I ever consider going to Burning Man? My friends and colleagues gave me endless crap before my departure, and I have to admit, I felt like I made a huge mistake. Burning Man was on my Bucket List, and I had no idea what to expect. At the encouragement of a client, I decided to commit to the experience and let it unfold.

I called my friend Steve, who also had Burning Man on his bucket list, and asked if he wanted to go with me. Through a series of bizarre coincidences, his wife texted my wife and they worked out the logistics. Steve was in and agreed to tow his 26′ travel trailer 14 hours to the event.

Whiteout Sand Storm

We arrived on Wednesday night late to a complete whiteout sandstorm. We’d prepared well and had goggles and high-quality masks to filter the dust; however, there was no getting around the train wreck of our mistake. I looked at Steve and said, “What have we gotten ourselves into?” We had five more days of this, and there was no way I would last.

We drove for an hour looking for a place to drop the trailer and make camp. No luck. Black Rock City was full. We parked at the bus stop and decided to get a few hours of sleep and attack the problem in the morning. We fell into bed to howling wind and the sandblasting of Steve’ new travel trailer. God forgive me for talking Steve into this trip!

We Don’t Want You Here

The next morning we cruised the city to a much more hospitable desert wind. After 45 minutes, we found a small slot that would fit Steve’s rig. However, there was a single bike in the middle of the site. Steve jumped out and moved the bike (a big Burning Man mistake) and backed the trailer into the spot. Within a few minutes, a woman with a silk robe (and nothing else) crawled out of an SUV and approached us with an epic hangover.

“We’re saving this spot for our friends,” said blurted. “You can’t park here.”

“We’ve been looking for a place to camp for a long time,” Steve responded kindly, “and this is the only spot in the whole playa that we can find that is open.” We pleaded with her, told her we’d make room when the friends arrived, and we’d be the quietest neighbors she’d ever meet.

We pulled out all the smiles and goodwill we could find.

Hangover woman was having none of it. She pushed back and told us that she didn’t want to hear our generator running, that her friends will be along later, and that we were not wanted here. Steve and I worked the situation hard and did not relent. We’d already dropped the trailer, and she was going to have a hard time to get us back into the truck, hitch the 26′ footer and hall it out.

She left and crawled into the SUV. Two minutes later, a dazed and confused dude from London rolled out wearing a leather trench coat and pierced nipples. He was significantly more cooperative, agreed to let us stay if we were quiet. Great! We have a place.

Nipple man retreated into the SUV, only to return shortly after that with a less than pleased, ‘you better get out there and send them packing’ look on his face. “She thinks you disrespected her by moving the bike.”

“Yes I did,” Steve said, “and we hope that you will let us make it right.”

That seemed to help, and pierced nipple man shook our hands and said, “Please keep it quite.”

Salvation

Drama and bad mojo energy are not what Steve and I came to Burning Man to find. We can get that back in the city. We found a nice camp of old men across from us, two of which were nude (welcome to Burning Man). They gave us coffee and welcomed us, ran down the parking problems and suggested we elbow our way into more of the camp.

I decided to take a walk and headed into the center of Black Rock City. I found the portable toilets (20 in a row) – they were everything you’d expect from a 70,000 person desert art festival. After 5 minutes of walking, I stumbled upon an open space, perfect for our rig. The Village headquarters where next to the spot and within a few minutes, we had secured the place! Woohoo! Salvation!

I ran back to camp, told Steve, and we hitch the trailer, reloaded the gear and relocated to our new home in less than 5 minutes. By 10 am on Thursday we’d found our brothers and sisters for the remainder of Burning Man.

What A Difference

Once we settled into our new home, we indeed discovered the power of Burning Man. In our village, they provided 24 hours ice water, Gatorade, snacks, food, sunblock and an assortment of supplies that I never knew I needed but was glad they were there.

With each return to fill up my water bottle, my gratitude to those who invited us into their camp grew. Everyone knew we were Burner Virgins and treated us with such care. Their demonstration of love and compassion was unmatched, and in stark contrast to the hangover, camp we escaped.

From the platform of gratitude, Steve and I began our Burn. With each unique and profoundly personal encounter we made, our appreciation of cultural diversity and acceptance slowly and thoroughly changed us.

Burning Man was nothing of the rumors. I never saw drug use or lewd sexual behavior. I am sure it was somewhere, but I never saw it.  70% of the people were couples, many from far corners of the world. Yes, there was nudity, however, after 30 minutes I didn’t see it nor cared. I learned a huge lesson about clothes and the identity we project within our society.

Each day opened new and more meaningful experiences that are only best described through my podcast on Burning Man.

I will return. There was so much more I wanted to do but did not have the time.

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About the Author

Robert Christiansen is the bestselling author of “The Bug In Our Brain” – How Lifting Self-Worth Clears the Path to Success.

Robert is an executive, entrepreneur, mentor, public speaker, master coach and is the president of Motive For Life, a professional coaching, event, and publishing company based in Lake Forest, California. Robert’s thirty years of work in the field of alcohol and drug addiction led him to his discovery of the relationship between self-worth and sabotage behaviors that affect millions of people around the world. Motive For Life is dedicated to bringing this solution to the general public and elevating the collective worthiness of the human population.

Potential is not enough

Potential Is Not Enough

The world is full of intelligent people, full of potential, who have made no progress in life.  Potential is not enough.  The world is full of highly potential people who can’t navigate themselves out of a wet paper bag.

When you have enormous potential, everybody tells you how great you are and what great opportunities you have in your life.  Your world looks so great, it gets you into the position where your potent is all you have.  Those with great unused potential tend to blame the world for their situation.

“I can’t do that because this person or that situation stands in in my way.”

“My boss will not allow me to advance to a new position.”

“My wife tells me I can’t do this or that.”

“I want to pursue my dream career, but I can’t leave my job.”

I think about my wife.  She has this big, big potential inside her as a baker and as a quilter. Quilting is a lost art. If you don’t understand what’s involved with quilting, I have to say that a level of patience and technical ability here to do good quilting is well off the charts, and highly underrated.  There’s potential in her. There’s this thing that’s got to come out in a creative nature.  She could easily say, “I don’t have the sewing equipment, the time, the effort, the technical ability, the creativeness.” Any of those would have made a great excuse for her not to go after quilting.

I remember my wife’s first quilts, she sewed for our children when they were young. The quilt style is called “I Spy” and they’re pieces of fabric with M & M’s, fire truck, ladybug and other cute stuff sewn together in a patchwork.  When the kids were babies, my wife would lay the kids on the quilt and say, “I Spy a bug.” The kids would look around and point at the ladybug patch. It was a great game and wonderful to experience. The quilt is not big, maybe took 20 hours to make and the kids loved it.

Our kids are in their 20’s and still have their I Spy quilts today.  I suspect that they’ll use their quilts again for their children. Now there is a legacy because my wife had potential that had to be expressed in action.  The potential was there, but until she actually cut out the squares and learned how to stitch the quilt together, the potential would have never come out in her life.

Today, my wife is off doing her thing at a quilt show.  I didn’t know there was such a thing. She loves going to different vendor booths and picking out colorful fabrics, talking to like-minded quilters about their techniques and creative process.  She’s living her passion, the potential had to come out. She’s not out there making a living doing this stuff, because that’s not what’s important to her. What’s important to her is that she’s living her potential. It’s coming out in her.

There is potential in you waiting to come out. You’re reading this article because you’ve made it this far. You said, “Hey, there’s something that Robert’s talking about here in me.  I want to fulfill my potential. It’s a desire.”

Everybody has a journey. Everybody has a potential that wants to come out. Elevate your self-worth by following your potential. Do something, anything. If you’re an artist, and you don’t feel like anybody’s going to like your stuff, it doesn’t matter. Go down to the store and get a pad, and a pencil, and start scribbling. Draw something, anything. It’s yours. It’s only yours, and only yours alone. If you decide to take your artwork to the next level and show somebody, that’s the next expansion of your potential.

Blame for Unmet Potential

The only way you will justify potential being unmet is to blame somebody else, or something else. More importantly, you may blame yourself, and lower your self-worth because you didn’t do anything around that potential. Don’t let that happen. It’s so important for you to take action. Potential is given to you by the creator, and it drives the world.

Every human being, all seven billion of us have potential in us. It was given to you and you know what it is. Don’t tell me you don’t know what it is, because you have a deep dark secret in your head somewhere, some place, some time, where you felt like, wow, that was kind of cool. I want to do that again. I ran that race and I felt alive. I want to do that again. I painted that painting. I came alive.

My point is this: live your potential. Once you do, and you start digging into it, it’s like a rope that gets tied around your chest, and it pulls you, and you love going with it. If you don’t go with it, it will drag you and beat you up until you recognize there’s something you need to do to live your potential. Whether you’re nine years old, or 90 years old, it doesn’t matter. The potential can come out, and it’s a fantastic manifestation.[vc_row overlay_dotted=”” css=”.vc_custom_1543855063257{border-top-width: 3px !important;border-right-width: 0px !important;border-bottom-width: 0px !important;border-left-width: 0px !important;border-left-color: #30742f !important;border-left-style: solid !important;border-right-color: #30742f !important;border-right-style: solid !important;border-top-color: #30742f !important;border-top-style: solid !important;border-bottom-color: #30742f !important;border-bottom-style: solid !important;}”][vc_column][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner el_class=”text-center” width=”1/3″][vc_single_image image=”3508″ img_size=”full” alignment=”center”][vc_single_image image=”3524″ img_size=”100×154″ alignment=”center” onclick=”custom_link” img_link_target=”_blank” link=”https://www.amazon.com/Bug-Our-Brain-Raising-Self-Worth/dp/0692901477/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1505517436&sr=8-1&keywords=robert+christiansen”][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”2/3″][vc_column_text]

About the Author

Robert Christiansen is the bestselling author of “The Bug In Our Brain” – How Lifting Self-Worth Clears the Path to Success.

Robert is an executive, entrepreneur, mentor, public speaker, master coach and is the president of Motive For Life, a professional coaching, event, and publishing company based in Lake Forest, California. Robert’s thirty years of work in the field of alcohol and drug addiction led him to his discovery of the relationship between self-worth and sabotage behaviors that affect millions of people around the world. Motive For Life is dedicated to bringing this solution to the general public and elevating the collective worthiness of the human population.

Best Books of 2017 To Lift Confidence

BEST CONFIDENCE BUILDING BOOKS OF 2007

Without a doubt, 2017 was the most connected, happy, and grateful year of my life. The events and experiences of the last year were like a dream and unfolded in a way that I could have never imagined. I started the year with a list of goals and only shared them with my closest friends and family. Goals are critical to my creative ambition and core to my happiness. I set a high bar for the upcoming year and remained open to the Creator to fulfill my destiny.

Books help me develop the foundation of knowledge necessary to attain my goals. They are essential in jogging my awareness to alternative ideas and concepts related to my definition of success. They establish a basis for thinking I find difficult to produce under my own free will. What’s more humbling is the timing of each event and the perfection of the flow of wisdom. Just when I needed the lesson the most, the words of an author would ring out in my mind, at precisely the right time. I heard what I needed to hear, and then at exactly the right moment, a situation would present itself and I’d put the lesson into action.

Don’t get me wrong; I struggled this year. Lots of conflict and emotion, mixed with confusion, doubt, and hope. Most of it related to the publication of my book, “The Bug in Our Brain” and the sale of Cloud Technology Partners to Hewlett Packard Enterprises. These events, as well as the birth of my first grandchild, a full knee replacement, 180,000 domestic miles on United, two intense public speaking Bootcamps, and many client engagements, shaped a fantastic year.

The sources of my truth varied throughout the year – each coming into my life at the right moment with the right message.

Here are my sources of truth from 2017: Audible (A), Kindle (K), podcasts (P) and hardback (H) publications I listen to or read in 2017.

  1. The Surrender Experiment – Michael Singer (A). Currently reading now.
  2. A Curious Mind: The Secret to a Bigger Life – Brian Grazer (A)
  3. Seven Secrets of the Corporate Mystic – Gay Hendricks (A)
  4. The Odyssey – Homer, Robert Fagles translation (A). This was fantastic!
  5. Building a Story Brand – Donald Miller (A). A must for anyone building a brand.
  6. The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle (A) (Yes, this was on last year’s list too!)
  7. The Wisdom of Joseph Campbell – Joseph Campbell (A). Wonderful interviews with JC.
  8. The Untethered Soul – Michael Singer (A). Game-changing. Thanks, Gary for the recommendation.
  9. The Phoenix Project – Gene Kim (A). A technology standard and must read.
  10. Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving – John J. Medina (A)
  11. The Inner Game of Tennis – W. Timothy Gallwey (A) – Note: I do not play tennis, it came recommended as a great metal awareness book. It is excellent.
  12. Autobiography of a Yogi – Paramahansa Yogananda (A)
  13. The Power of Myth – Joseph Campbell (A) – (Yes, again)
  14. The 10x Rule – Grant Cardone (A). Not recommended. Felt it was in complete opposite to allowing the flow. However, I did listen!
  15. Unshakeable – Tony Robbins (A)
  16. How Not To Die – Michael Greger, MD (A)
  17. Wishes Fulfilled – Dr. Wayne Dyer (A)
  18. The Power of Unlimited Imagination – Neville Goddard (A)
  19. The Power of Awareness – Neville Goddard (A)
  20. Meditations – Marcus Aurelius, Naxos Audiobooks (A). A leader’s bible. Without a doubt one of my most important books.
  21. Shoe Dog – Phil Knight (A). Wonderful!
  22. Worthy – Nancy Levin (A)
  23. Oola – Dave Braun (A). Pretty bad.
  24. Iron John – Robert Bly (A)
  25. I Can See Clearly Now – Dr. Wayne Dyer (A)
  26. It Starts With Food – Melissa Hartwig (A)
  27. Meditations for Manifestation – Dr. Wayne Dyer (A)
  28. Man’s Search for Meaning – Victor Frankl (A). An absolute read for anyone.
  29. The Four Agreements – don Miguel Ruiz (A). Game-changing. This is my third time reading it.
  30. 10% Happier – Dan Harris (A). Wonderful book!
  31. The War of Art – Steven Pressfield (A)
  32. The Road Less Traveled – M. Scott Peck (A). My third time reading it. So powerful.
  33. The Bug in Our Brain – Robert Christiansen (K). Wonderful book! LOL
  34. You are the Message – Roger Ailes (K). The public speaker’s bible. Must read if you are in the game of speaking.
  35. Pitch Perfect – Bill McGowen (K). Another public speaker’s bible. Super book.
  36. Tribe of Mentors – Tim Ferriss (H). Just go it and love it.
  37. Tim Ferriss Radio Show (P)
  38. The Doppler – Cloud Technology Partners weekly magazine and podcasts.

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About the Author

Robert Christiansen is the bestselling author of “The Bug In Our Brain” – How Lifting Self-Worth Clears the Path to Success.

Robert is an executive, entrepreneur, mentor, public speaker, master coach and is the president of Motive For Life, a professional coaching, event, and publishing company based in Lake Forest, California. Robert’s thirty years of work in the field of alcohol and drug addiction led him to his discovery of the relationship between self-worth and sabotage behaviors that affect millions of people around the world. Motive For Life is dedicated to bringing this solution to the general public and elevating the collective worthiness of the human population.

Routine Engine of Success & Sabotage

The Routine Engine of Success and Sabotage

THE ROUTINE ENGINE OF SUCCESS AND SABOTAGE

At the core of our being is the routine of worthiness.

You were programmed. You live out your programs until something dramatic happens to interrupt your routines. It’s not your fault; the adults charged with your care may have had the best of intentions; however, they didn’t know the impact of their actions. Every word, event, social engagement, celebration, death, harm, and denial went into the programming of your mind and defined your core of self-worth.

The bug in your brain habitually enforces the collective thoughts someone else gave you. As a child, you could not determine what was true and what was false. You developed that skill later when you learned there was a difference. You didn’t pick your own name, let alone have the choice of what is good, bad, moral, right, wrong, safe, or dangerous. You inherited programming that does not serve you now; it stands in the way of your progress and the attainment of your dreams.

Within the center of your brain is an oval cluster of neuron cells called the basil ganglia. In his excellent book, The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business, Charles Duhigg details the groundbreaking research performed in the 1990s by the Brain and Cognitive Science department at MIT. They discovered that routines are learned, stored, and, in part, executed by the basil ganglia. More recent research points to other cooperative segments of the brain that assist in language, emotions, physical ability, and a host of other functions we often take for granted.

I call these collective brain functions the Routine Engine. Much like the operating system of a computer, the Routine Engine performs hundreds of programs on your behalf. Many are critical for your survival, for without them you’d die within a few minutes. Can you imagine having to focus on every breath to ensure your survival? The Routine Engine handles breathing and hundreds of other tasks for you so you can concentrate on high function activities.

Your brain handles much more than you comprehend. Recent discoveries have determined that you developed 85 percent of your brain’s neuron cells by the age of two. Unlike all the other cells in your body, replaced at regular intervals, the bulk of your neuron cells stay with you from birth and return to the earth at death. It’s as if you’re given a computer at birth with a set of primary programs and the ability to download new ones.

The Routine Engine can learn, store, and perform language, emotion, and image routines. For example, consider a song that gets stuck in your head. You seem powerless to stop the runaway thinking and constant force of the music. Your Routine Engine is in an infinite loop, and unless you’re able to interrupt it, the song is drummed out habitually.

Imagine a song stuck in your head repeating, “I suck, I am not smart, I am a loser, I wish I could do better, I will never have enough money.” That would be terrible, wouldn’t it? However, that’s precisely the painful reality. It all adds up to wasted energy in your attempt to overcome anxiety, fear, and a host of other character problems keeping you from your success. You are in a constant battle of wills and your Routine Engine is winning!

There is good news. Through the power of habit, you can reprogram your Routine Engine and replace your limiting bugs with new, more up-to-date software in line with your goals. The language, emotions, and images of higher self-worth must be reprogrammed in your Routine Engine. Worthiness can be lifted and by lifting it, you can achieve the goals you set.

If you’re not satisfied with your life, then know there is a way to fix the bugs in your brain and get what you want. By changing the language in the Routine Engine to higher self-worth, you naturally direct your thinking to focus on success and the action to attain it.[vc_row overlay_dotted=”” css=”.vc_custom_1543855063257{border-top-width: 3px !important;border-right-width: 0px !important;border-bottom-width: 0px !important;border-left-width: 0px !important;border-left-color: #30742f !important;border-left-style: solid !important;border-right-color: #30742f !important;border-right-style: solid !important;border-top-color: #30742f !important;border-top-style: solid !important;border-bottom-color: #30742f !important;border-bottom-style: solid !important;}”][vc_column][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner el_class=”text-center” width=”1/3″][vc_single_image image=”3508″ img_size=”full” alignment=”center”][vc_single_image image=”3524″ img_size=”100×154″ alignment=”center” onclick=”custom_link” img_link_target=”_blank” link=”https://www.amazon.com/Bug-Our-Brain-Raising-Self-Worth/dp/0692901477/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1505517436&sr=8-1&keywords=robert+christiansen”][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”2/3″][vc_column_text]

About the Author

Robert Christiansen is the bestselling author of “The Bug In Our Brain” – How Lifting Self-Worth Clears the Path to Success.

Robert is an executive, entrepreneur, mentor, public speaker, master coach and is the president of Motive For Life, a professional coaching, event, and publishing company based in Lake Forest, California. Robert’s thirty years of work in the field of alcohol and drug addiction led him to his discovery of the relationship between self-worth and sabotage behaviors that affect millions of people around the world. Motive For Life is dedicated to bringing this solution to the general public and elevating the collective worthiness of the human population.

the power of being present

The Power of Being Present

THE HIGHEST FORM OF LOVE

What is the highest form of love is your presence?  In this episode, Robert dives deep into the often overlooked power of your presence in a relationship.  Bringing your attention to the present moment is the greatest form of love you can give to any person.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2IRwc2phHfc

About the Author

Robert Christiansen is the bestselling author of “The Bug In Our Brain” – How Lifting Self-Worth Clears the Path to Success.

Robert is an executive, entrepreneur, mentor, public speaker, master coach and is the president of Motive For Life, a professional coaching, event, and publishing company based in Lake Forest, California. Robert’s thirty years of work in the field of alcohol and drug addiction led him to his discovery of the relationship between self-worth and sabotage behaviors that affect millions of people around the world. Motive For Life is dedicated to bringing this solution to the general public and elevating the collective worthiness of the human population.